Comments on: A Blurry Line?

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 13:38:56 +0000

To me, a true friend loves you unconditionally. Plain and simple. And a real friend makes you a better person.

As for the latter part, I’ve had one or two that I eventually realized weren’t what I thought. But as Joe said, you have to realize they were there for a reason and trust that there will be more in the future…better ones.

By: Sharon Mayhew

Sharon Mayhew — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 03:28:44 +0000

I agree with everyone…A real friend gets you all of the time. They are the type of a friend that you may not see for years, but the momment you are together you feel the same as you always did when you were together. Those friends come few and far between.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 17:53:03 +0000

I agree with you Lynn — a good friend ‘gets you’, and is always there for you. Someone with whom you can talk about anything with. And one of the best parts is that if it’s someone you don’e see often, and maybe don’t even get to talk often..when you get together it’s just as if you have been hanging out all the time no matter how much time has past!

The relationships that in hindsight have not been so good….the trick is to figure out how to not let it such all of your energy and emotions, which is hard. But once you can let that go it opens you up to all the good things in your life again.

By: Joe

Joe — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 14:03:17 +0000

To me, a friend is someone who loves you, with all the joys and responsibilities that entails and implies. Simple as that.

I think friendship is a process of discovery. Sometimes, you discover the person you’re spending time with isn’t really a friend. I guess you just have to be grateful for what that person brought to your life, remind yourself that life comes in seasons, and move on, confident that people will appear to fill the void.

By: Mary

Mary — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 13:08:22 +0000

My best friend is someone who loves me for who and what I am and allows me to do the same in return. We can share anything and come out stronger in our friendship. We can cry together; laugh together; solve the world’s problems, cause some problems and at the end of the day feel so grateful for this continually growing friendship.

I am not sure I had harmful friendships but I can say that I have had friendships that didn’t last long. And that is not a bad thing. I think we are put into each other’s lives for a reason that is not necessarily life-long if the reason has been fulfilled. It is not “using” someone if the reason is not a result of a personal plan but rather a Divine plan.

I feel like I have learned something from all of my friendships – long or short lasting. Sometimes that doesn’t come to light long after the person enters my life or long after they leave it, but knowing that, I give everyone a chance to be my friend whether ultimately it hurts me or benefits me.

By: Dru

Dru — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 12:42:15 +0000

Someone who doesn’t try to make you them and understands the differences between you and is there for you no matter what.

Like Lynn, I have one friend who I haven’t seen or spoken to in at least a year but when we get together, it’s like we’ve spoken the day before.

I’ve have friends who, I call them toxic, who I eventually get rid of.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 10:34:56 +0000

Someone who gets you – even if you don’t have a lot of things in common.

I’ve had several of these types of friendships where I was a stepping stone to one of their goals. A tool. And once I didn’t fit their mold of what role I should play, I was dumped.

Some of my best friends I never see and rarely talk to, yet when we do, it’s like we’ve been days between visits not years.