Still Learning, Still Growing

It’s official. I’ve hit that birthday. You know, the big one. Now, first up, let me say I’m grateful. Each birthday in and of itself is another gift. A beautiful one. Yet somewhere in adult-hood it stops holding significance in the way it does when we’re children. No more pin-the-tail-on-the-donkey party games, no more themed invitations for our friends, etc.  In some cases, a birthday is even dreaded because of a particular number. And honestly, I think that’s kind of sad. Birthdays are for celebrating–period. Regardless of your age. Because as I said a few moments ago, they are a gift–a gift of time. What we do with it is up to us.

I was always the wise beyond my years kid–the one who was all about responsibility and walking the line. I don’t regret that at all, but it also made me a little serious when it came to special milestones for myself, whether that was a birthday or an accomplishment. Even now, the vast majority of my book releases are merely a date on the calendar. I rarely go to the store to see it on the shelf anymore. And birthdays, well my loved ones always make a effort with cake and presents, but I’m just as fine seeing the day wrap up.

Sometime over this past year though, I started making changes. Not big, monster changes that won’t stick, but more thoughtful tweaks that made me think–tweaks that I like and will most definitely keep and build on.

The standouts? First, taking almost 8 weeks off from writing this past summer. I didn’t get to a lot of the “other stuff” I wanted to get to, but that’s okay. I’ll work on that next time. 🙂

Next, I’d have to say the daughters-and-me 3 night trip this past summer. We got in the car and headed off for some fun and it was amazing. I didn’t worry about what I should’ve been doing instead, etc. We just went and enjoyed. This will definitely happen again.

There’s also that ever-growing desire to stop and smell the roses. One example where I had to consciously make myself do it was when I visited DD # 1 back in September. My weekend with her was at the front end of a crazy few weeks of work-related travel. I remember being in the hotel pool with her and quietly thinking about all the stuff coming up. And suddenly, something inside my brain clicked in and said, “stop. That stuff is coming whether you think about it or not, so just breathe and enjoy THIS moment.”  Still not sure where that voice came from but it was eye-opening and so very right.  Since then, I’ve found myself thinking back to that and trying hard to keep living that way.

And finally there’s the lead-up to today. A lead-up that had me taking the family to Disney (my favorite place on earth next to home) to celebrate my day. It didn’t matter that it was a few days earlier because everyone got to be there and that’s what I wanted most. Of course the old me reared its head on the way through the gift shops when DH said I should pick something out that I wanted (I didn’t), but I’m a work in progress. 🙂

Here’s to making tweaks and taking Ah-ha moments to heart…


~Elizabeth (aka Laura)

P.S. Check out this fortune I got at the Chinese place in the airport the other night…


2 Responses to “Still Learning, Still Growing”

  1. Debbie S.
    January 10th, 2018 at 11:05 pm

    Happy Birthday to you
    Happy Birthday to you
    Happy Birthday dear Laura
    Happy Birthday to you! And many more!

    Lovely singing voice isn’t it? Well, imagine that it is for you own sanity. So glad that you had a wonderful time at Disney, how can you not? Upset that you didn’t stow me away, of course you would have lost me at Epcot, hubby always says “don’t let her see the ball or we’re going to have to drag her away” LOL. Happy Birthday!

  2. Elizabeth/Laura
    January 11th, 2018 at 6:04 pm

    Thanks, Debbie!!

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